Tuesday, June 23, 2015

8 ways to UN-HATE your Life, Now!!!








“If you hate your life, you haven’t seen enough of it.  If you hate your life, it’s because your life is too small and doesn’t fit you.”
–Augusten Burroughs

When I find myself hopelessly depressed, it’s a feeling similar to the crushing sensation of claustrophobia.
I feel trapped within the confines of my own world, as if the walls are slowly closing in around me.
My life feels packed airtight, with not enough free space to breathe.
When I’m feeling so deeply stuck in the mud, when I find myself enclosed in the stifling banality of routine, when I seemed to have lost desire for all that once fueled me – the only way I’m able to find that coveted little bright light at the end of the seemingly endless tunnel is to expand my world.
I need to be reminded I’m but a tiny speck of dust in a colossal universe and the planet is teeming with stimulating opportunities and electrifying experiences.
When you are consumed by the pressing negative energy of others, direly cemented in the shackles of the town where you grew up, alienated and misunderstood at school or ready to bang your head up against a brick wall every time you so little as thing about enduring another mundane workday at the dismal job you soulfully hate – the time has come to make your world BIGGER.


You’ve outgrown your life and are ready to make space for the shiny zeal of newness:

1.     If you hate your job, get a new one.


Unless you’ve been blessed with the rare combination of a massive trust fund and zero ambition, you will spend a massive portion of your life at your place of employment.

If the contents of your days are spent pulling your hair out of your head whilst doing tasks you absolutely hate- you’re on the fast track to a permanent residence in the fiery pits of depression.
If you loathe your job with ferocious intensity, something is wrong.

It’s time to make a drastic change, spread your F* wings and soar through the life-altering journey of a career change.

Starting anew at work is cripplingly daunting and wildly scary but also madly exciting.

A six-month (give or take) transitional period of uncomfortable soul-searching is far superior to a lifetime spent strapped to a desk soaking in the toxicity of deep unhappiness.


2.       If you hate your friends, meet new people.

Sometimes when you dare to pause and take in your surroundings; you will come to the realization you have absolutely nothing in common with your friends anymore.

You discover you and your nearest and dearest are bound to one another for the wrong reasons, like routine or circumstance or location.

It’s sad to feel like you’re residing on the outside of your circle – displaced in a group of friends that once felt like your family.

There is no feeling lonelier than feeling isolated and disconnected in a sea of familiar people.

It’s okay to grow out of friendships. While it’s sad to let go of what was, the beautiful part is this: The world is packed with a plethora of hyper-fascinating entitles and also seeking real friendship and connection.

Human beings are eager to meet new, fresh, like-minded people. Don’t be shy – head to a bar by yourself and strike the match of conversation.

Get used to going out alone, for the more fiercely independent a creature you are, the more you are actively throwing yourself into the mix of new friendship possibilities.


3.     If you hate where you live, move somewhere new.

You can’t grow when you’re forever tethered to the place you’ve always lived.  You will become painfully uncomfortable being so comfortable – excessive restlessness physically hurts.

Refuse to be the person who gives up and sits on her hands complaining about how unstimulated she is in her environment when she has all the power in the world to make a change.

Yes, it DOES take work.  It takes practicing the tricky art of saving money and enduring loneliness while in the beginning of your new adventure – but it’s the ultimate way to widen your world and relieve your depression.

Remember: Nothing is set in stone.  Nothing in this gorgeous world is permanent – if you hate your new town or city even more than the one you flew from, you can always move again.  And again.

You have every right to sift from city to city until you find the place that fits you.

As the wise Joan Didion advises: “You have to pick the place you don’t walk away from.”


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4.     If you hate your partner, move on.

If your relationship is pulling you into the ground – cut the cord.  Your partner is solely there to enhance your life and make it better, not more terrible and bleak.

There seems to be a collective fear of singleness sweeping acrossed the great expense of our generation – when the real fear should lie in a life spent with someone who brings you down.

Break free from the codependent mold, and only attach yourself to those who lift you up.

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5.     If you hate the way you’re treated, don’t stand for it.

The most empowering part of being an adult is this: You don’t have to accept abuse from anyone ever again.

When we’re kids, we are often trapped in hopeless situations that are completely out of our control.

As grownups, we have the awesome capability to stick up for ourselves and leave our abusers choking in the dust of the past.

If your extended family, coworkers, friends, lovers or parents are still mistreating you, don’t stand for it.

You are a STRONG, powerful, fully realized human being with the wherewithal to stick up for yourself and cut out the f* up energy ruining what could be a beautiful world.

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6.     If you hate the familiar, fly somewhere new.

Nothing will help you regain your lust for life like traveling.

Getting on a plane and peering down at the tiny houses and the pint-sized bodies of waters will free you of your apathy and put it all in perspective.

Tasting exotic flavors, listening to unfamiliar inflections, hearing new words in strange accents, gallivanting around strange cities and indulging your eyeballs in brand new sights is like an electric shock treatment for the soul.

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7.     If you hate feeling pressured, create your own set of standards.

You hit your mid-20s, and suddenly there is a HEAP of pressure thrown upon you to have the following in place:

A career.

A relationship.

Economic stability.

When you don’t have those things by the time you hit your twenty-seventh birthday, too many people want to crawl into a little hole deep within the earth, curl up and sleep in the dirt of shame.

Let me let you in on a little secret: It’s all bulls*.  You get to decide the course of your lfie.

Create your very own customized sets of standards – ones that are unique and make you genuinely happy.  Liberate yourself from the shackles of societal pressures.

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8.     If you hate being unnoticed, put yourself out there.

Are you fed up with watching life from the sidelines? Well, then start playing in the game.
Contrary to popular belief, the thrilling game of life isn’t exclusive to models, moguls and media mega-stars – it’s for all of us.

So welcome to the big bad world.  Dive in with a reckless abandon and never look back.

“Why the hell wouldn’t you want to be one of the fabulous people, the life enhancers, the people who look interesting and smell luscious and who dare to be gorgeously more fascinating than their neighbor? –Simon Doonan

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Monday, June 22, 2015

Blind-sided

It's been a month, I have unshackled myself from my home desk, opened my wings and ... I flew the coop. I think in a literal sense at that.

Yes, I have enjoyed my Mini-Vaca. I put down the pen and paper for a whole month..well sorta! I gained some insight into life. You know, what I want...what I dont...

I even managed to start writing a new book. (Go me for breaking that pesky writers block)  Yet, here I sit, super excited to get back to my blog, but super depressed about life.

And, so...my journey continues!

One thing is for certain, my blogging keeps me sain and for that...I guess without further ado... I'm back....

I hope all has been well with my readers. I have missed you all!

My journey....back into the workforce outside of home has been trying, to be kind. I thought I had this...until I didnt! I miss my Hubby, whom I flat out DO NOT see during the week...yes, I'm talking Monday -Friday. No see, no voice...no nothing but words on a phone screen...thank you texts?

Then there are my kiddos, who I see for EXACTLY 3 hours after work, a half hour of that is a car ride home...

So, I'd say that I am two steps from jumping off the bridge!

Now it is time for me to make a change...and yes, I begged my wah job to take me back..their not hiring. (DISLIKE!)

But, it's all going to be OK. Join me on my new adventure! Yes, aces in my back pocket...always! 

It's time to take life in my own hands and figure it out.

I guess...in essence...it's time to jump!

Join me as I embark on the future!!

~Kel

Thursday, May 14, 2015

IF AT FIRST YOU DON'T SUCCEED....

Of course..I pick CHEESECAKE..YUM




Being a Mom is a piece of cake-right.




Eh...not so much

It ain't easy. 


There are good days...and bad ones

There are moments you will hold onto forever and some you'd like to chuck in "that" good old EFF it bucket!

There are days you are looking all over for the nonexistent manual that tells you what to do ... or what comes next, only to find out, IT DOESN'T EVEN EXIST


There is that morning when no one wants to get out of bed...not even YOU...but you suck it up, put your best foot forward and become the Drill Sargent with a mission to get kids out the door by eight a.m. or else! 


Weekends don't even offer a break. 

Those same kids who DID NOT want to get up yesterday...on Friday...seem to be up at the ASS CRACK OF DAWN...seriously

What is up with that anyways?  


It's six o'clock and one of those sweet, angelic children are yelling.. "Mom...the sun's up...time for us to be up."


Damn you Spring Forward!







Remember those days when you were up all night..rocking, perhaps...that crying, whining child...do you remember those days?  




Don't forget them. 



They go fast...then you left with children who

a) no longer need you to do ANYTHING for them...

hey, so what if they missed a button and there shirt is totally crooked, or if their undies are completely backwards- they did it themselves and are SUPER PROUD..who am I to judge?  

or 

b) they are so DEPENDENT on you they all of a sudden can't sleep without you- 

which makes NO sense because I have found that once we cuddle up..
the only one sleeping is ME! 





Some night...said child, who is now Pre-K...wakes up SCREAMING HYSTERICALLY and has forgotten to use her words. AHH.. Trying to calm her down is like pulling teeth because she is screaming like YOU should be calling an AMBULANCE!


Being a Mom is cake!  Said NO MOM EVER!!!


Don't get me started on the reward system... SEE this...yes, THIS...this JAR here filled to the brim with CANDY. It was supposed to be a GOOD BEHAVIOR jar..if you check off all your boxes on your chart you get a piece of candy.  

HMM... well, it ain't going so smooth..considering this candy is from EASTER...


I think I am going to make a chart for myself...




I get candy for each day I don't have a Mommy Moment....Oh..and don't sit there and act like you have no idea what I am talking about...You KNOW these Moments...these "I can't do this anymore" freak out "I am the INCREDIBLE HULK" moments. 

I declare my frustration by saying "Grrr..I am so frustrated right now." (hey, I AM using my words!) and then...I walk away.  (I take a Mommy Time Out and breathe!) 

Why? 


Because kids don't care. I think they LOVE it when they get you THAT frustrated...





If you are a working Mom, you know... one of those Moms who has MOM GUILT because not only do you Cook/Clean/Do Laundry/Take care of Kids/Hubby and House...you ACTUALLY WORK in a real live place away from those things TOO.  And you feel like you are missing things...or your KIDS miss you.  





Well... I can't speak for ALL children..but chances are they DON'T.  They don't even realize you do anything else but what is going on in this moment.  
"Mom, I am thirsty."  "Mom, I am hungry."  "Honey..where is [fill in the blank}"



It never ends. Moms are the GLUE.  We hold it ALL  together..  somehow...someway- it is all US


That is the best way to look at it. 



We hug, we kiss, we fight, we scream, we yell, we laugh, we smile, we joke, we fix, we break, we hide, we seek, we find, we clean, we cook, we shop, we pack lunches, we worry about dinner (weeks in advanced), we complain about this and that, we deal...and this is just with HUBBY! 






Look back to your childhood...what did you want to be when you grew up? 



Have you ever sat and thought about it? 



Some days are good...great even.  Hold onto those ones!  


When they are bad..find the good.  Find the ice to break.  Find the fun and if all else fails...DANCE and SING- I promise...YES, I PROMISE..it will make it all BETTER





Hold onto the treasures that are children and savor the moments...yes, ALL of them, preferably...because in a blink of an eye that baby is walking...that walker is talking...that talker is sassing and YOU GET MY DRIFT




The best job I ever had was...at 9-1-1.. wait...no...the BEST JOB I have ever had is being a MOM (you can see why I was confused...there are kind of the same thing- screaming, yelling, panick, heavy breathing, loud bangs in the background) 


Nothing will ever pay as much, nothing will ever leave my heart swollen with so much LOVE I have no idea WHAT to do with it all and nothing...NOTHING will ever FRUSTRATE me MORE than my kids....  and my HUBBY... (Love you!) 


So, if at first you don't succeed....



DANCE and SING!



(duh!) 




Be the BEST MOM you can be...be YOU!  



Friday, May 8, 2015

Power your child's love of words: With FUN Games

 

Summer Reading
Has its Rewards

I am a big nerd about reading...as you all know after reading/searching my blog!  Well, I gave this "bug" of reading...this LOVE of words...to my oldest daughter. She is six now, and just learned how to really put words together through her Kindergarten year and to say that she is eager, enthusiastic would be an understatement! 


 

 Play Matchmaker: Early readers will get a kick out of recognizing words.  Toss a bunch of household items-your kid's plastic dino, a seashell, a pencil-into a bucket.  Write the corresponding words on note cards.  Your child's mission: Match each item with its written description. 

 


Swap Stories by the Campfire: Pack your kid's FAVORITE (not too) spooky tales and a flashlight, and act out the stories in your best ghostly voice.  Not into Camping?  Well, just head to the backyard after dark and make a great memory!

 

Tell a Zany Story: Preschoolers LOVE to chat (boy do they!), and a DIY mad libs power your child's active imagination while boosting literacy skills.  Brainstorm a list of people, places, things, and actions with your little one.  Write them down onto slips of paper. Place the nouns and verbs into two different bowls.  Ask your child to draw one slip from each, then come up with a story involving the two. She'll be excited to tell you all about a skateboarding dog...equipped with a unique name that only a four year old could imagine!

 

Fish for Sight Words: Beginning readers can recognize some short words-such as "the" and "to" --at a glance.  Help them practice by playing a round of reading-inspired GO FISH.  Write about 20 SIGHT WORDS on note cards (make sure there are two of each word). Then, deal four cards to yourself and your child. Place the remainder between you.  In order to make a pair, your child will need to figure out what words are in her hand, then ask if you've got its match or draw from the deck.

Build some Words: Energize your child's pattern recognition skills by creating word blocks. First, jot down common syllables like at, an, op, and it on sticky notes then affix each to a block. Next, put consonants on another set of stickies and affix those to blocks as well.  Then let your kids stack 'em up to build as many words as they can. 

 

Take it Outside: Grab a pair of walkie-talkies and a couple of your child's favorite books. Then head outside and find separate places in the yard where you can get comfy.  Take turns reading to each other through the walkies and encourage him to spell our words he gets stuck on. (Sound it out!) This actually can also work with larger groups of kids from the whole neighborhood.  Everyone can share what they're reading with each other without even leaving their own backyards and it is so much more fun with a walkie-talkie!


Power Up & Read: The Scholastic Summer Reading Challenge encourages kids to read books, earn rewards, and unlock original stories by favorite authors!  Visit: scholastic.com/summer to take advantage of free Power Up & Read resources including great videos that will help FUEL your own family's reading adventures (Note: Ends September 4th).  You can also visit the Parents section of the Summer Reading Challenge website to get daily TIPS and enter for a chance to WIN BOOKS and other PRIZES!!!

 

 

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