What lessons have YOU learned in YOUR Marriage?
I have been in marriage "bliss" for nearly eight years and I would like to think that I have learned a thing or two. There have been ups and downs, not one more than the other though- which I take as a good sign.
Below are my #35 lessons that I have learned in my own marriage in the past 8 years:
1. A Happy Marriage is hard work!
2. My Hubby has MORE shoes than me. (true story)
3. I could possibly fall out of love with my Hubby. (not saying I will or would but I think I could possibly!)
4. I could fall back in love with my Hubby all over again. (and yes, I do this all the time!)
5. Hair Shavings are ALWAYS in the sink. (I do not require him to tell me that he shaved (for me- as he likes to add)- I ALREADY know and think that someday soon I will GO INSANE because of it!)
6. I have learned that it is very easy to hurt someone you love.
7. I have also learned how HARD it is to apologize! But it is IMPORTANT.
8. I have learned how to give sincere apologies. (also Important!)
9. The whole 'Til Death Do Us Part' might seem like no big deal...well IT IS!
10. How miserable marriage can make you feel (at times!)
11. How blissfully happy marriage can make you feel.
12. I would, at times...question whether or not "Happily Ever After" really even exists.
13. That I am STRONGER than I ever thought that I was! (I seriously deal with a full time job and two kids under 6 on a daily basis and usually by myself!)
14. That I could feel so much passion, still, 8 years into my marriage. (and it might be more than when we were just dating!)
15. That the sound of him biting Twizzlers would bring me to a point of wanting...desperately..to HIT something!
16. Our differences over discipline and our children, would lead to a public and embarrassing display of him losing his mind. (again, true story!)
17. He would be so opinionated about me saying the wrong word when I thought I had said something else. (OK, yes, I am stubborn too!)
18. That I would find his opinions so irritating.
19. Seeing him succeed could mean more to me than my own success ever would. (I truly mean this! I have never been a prouder wife than I am right now with his career choice!)
20. I would lose myself. (in more ways than 1)
21. Losing myself sounds romantic, but really just leads to me feeling lost.
22. Staying connected to me would be challenging. (I am sorry honey!)
23. Time alone with my husband would be scarce and sacred time that I will go to all lengths to find. (Have kids and you will understand!)
24. That I could truly love HIM more NOW than the day I married him.
25. I could be so MEAN. (ouch!)
26. I could depend so heavily on someone else. (even with my stubborn ass, it's so true!)
27. Intimacy plays a vitally, and I MEAN VITALLY, important role in a successful marriage.
28. I would still have to DATE my Husband. (and I love this part!)
29. That our arguments over the little things would NEVER stop. (Hey, at least it is usually NOT over money!)
30. Love really can GROW! (and it does!)
31. Learning to communicate with my Hubby would be a never-ending challenge. (and it is on both sides!)
32. Having kids would CHANGE EVERYTHING! (understatement of the YEAR!)
33. That, a nearly 34 year old - after being with the same person for nearly 14 years, I could still feel like a teenage in love.(and act like it sometimes too!)
34. That I can NOT change him!
35. I have a choice. (I have learned to pick my battles!)
I know that might have been a little bit blunt, and if Hubby is reading it, he might think to himself...damn... but in the end, I am a lucky lady! I married a wonderful man, who has his moments, (as do I!) but at the end of the day I know that he loves me and my girls with all of himself.
I hope that if he were to make the same list, he would be able to be just as brutally honest, because there are times when life is great, life is good and sometimes life just sucks!
Marriage is hard.
No matter what you do. I think the big difference is being with a person who is not only your lover, your husband but also your best friend and knows how to be the other half!
In our case, I freak out and he is the one to stop, calmly tell me that, Hey, everything will be OK, it will all work out and I will continue to freak out, a little bit milder, but after all is said and done...it all works out.
I would never want to be with anyone else. I never want to lose this person who is by my side day in and day out, and I would go to great lengths to make sure that would never happen. I am with my soul mate and that speaks words beyond my voice!
Life is hard, sharing your life is even harder- but at the end of the day it is SO worth it!
I love you Hubby!
~Kel~
