Our crazy July 4th fun on the boat

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Happy 4th of July!

A letter to my Hubby...July 2014

Through the years our lives have changed so much.  

We have gone from just the two of us to the three of us and finally to the four of us and with that we have learned how to be a TEAM, how to handle everyday life, no matter how hard it has been.  We have overcome many obstacles in our journey and grown together because of them.  It has been a challenge to learn how to share love and how to find time and how to circle back around to having a relationship with one another with children.  

I can't say it better than this:

There have been days when you walk in the door and I didn't even turn around. I was preoccupied!  Whether it was filling sippy cups and wiping booties, I was too busy. Then the times when I had to shout over running bath water, "Hey, Glad you are home!" But it didn't mean what it used to mean. You know those days when we did not have children. When the meaning was full of eager anticipation to spend time together. 

Instead, it was full of expectation to aid in the demands of the family.  "Glad you're home,"  more properly translated to, "Thank God for two extra hands to help me."  And, "Ahh, I might get five minutes alone."

Then the days came when I spent every last ounce of myself on our children.  The demands of life and the kids came before any other priority.  What little of me that I had left at the end of the day was used to crawl into bed before someone awoke to need me all over again.  the thought of doing anything else after the children were asleep sounded impossible and your happy smile could and should ONLY mean you were willing to get up with the baby and nothing more.

You had once completed my heart and then you become one more person who needed me. The charming things that I fell for went completely unnoticed. The daily grind will become expected.

There have been many times when I was at my wit's end wearing other people's food and poop on my clothes.  I still needed to hear that I was beautiful, but I wasn't listening to you.  I needed to know that I was still love-able, but I didn't want you near me. When you arrive home after meeting the demands of work, I expected you to meet the demands of your family.  I would hear none of your exhaustion, and you would be oblivious to mine.

I know that when you would call home to ask a quick question and anticipated an equally quick conversation, you instead spent time  listening to me talk to our kids, giving out directions to the kids. "Don't climb that!"  or "Don't put that in your mouth!"  You have become accustomed to my outbursts, but I know that you will not forget that there was ever a time when you had my full attention.

I still remember when Mommy becomes my name, but I still remember YOU.  I remember that I am your wife. I remember how much I love and appreciate you now in this moment and then.  I remember your dedication to US.  I remember your love and devotion to ME.  And  then, when the days are long and I just  need a break, I remember to fall into your arms and you are still there for me.

I have asked that you remember me as your wife. The care and love that I has given all to you, was spilling over to our children.  My love for you has not changed. Give me the grace to be enough even when I doesn't feel like it. Remember when your days are long, mine are too.  Fall in love with me over and over again.

It is so important for us to remember each other. We need to always remember the two of us that made this family.  We have held on  tightly to one another, even through all the changes. There is no greater gift than to walk through parenthood MY your best friend. We are the greatest team. Every single day.


To everyone out there who experiences these changes, I always say that the commercial where they say, "Having a Baby Changes Everything" is so true.  Your life is flipped completely upside down and until you learn to work as a team, it is hard.  It gets easier when you have your second one, but time is not on your side. There is so much of the day that goes to juggling kids that at the end, all you want to do is be alone. This is a challenge that will work itself out, it just take...time.. Oh the irony!

We are at a comfortable place in our lives today.  We are juggling a three year old and a five year old and our balance is good. We work together, we have found our way.  Some days are easier than others, but if we work together, instead of against each other, life is a breeze!

We even get date nights every once in a while, which is awesome because I get to reconnect with my best friend.

To my Hubby, I love you. I am glad we have stuck together through it all and our children get a household with both their parents loving them. We also show our children that we love each other, which I think is amazing for them to see that for their own relationships in their lives.

I love you!

~Kel

AVON Lady here for Thursday, July 3rd- SAVE

Hi, Avon Lady here!

I will keep this short and sweet.  We have TONS of deals going on at my website:

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Right now, when you order JUST $20 worth of great AVON products, you get FREE SHIPPING!  Enter Promo Code: JULY4FS.  This code is good until 7/6/14 at Midnight!

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Thanks!
Your Avon Lady, KEL

On my own Personal Fitness Challenge!

I am on a journey..

I am challenging myself everyday, to be a better person, to be a better ME, to live a better life and to be healthier.  I want what every one wants, whether they admit it or not.  I make mistakes, I have regrets...but I do NOT let them get in the way or progress.  I am not perfect, I never will be, but I can BE better, I can DO better, I can LIVE better!

This morning I have decided that I am not done with my fitness challenge. I have more work to do, and probably always will. I bore easily, so I have decided that instead of putting ALL my energy into 1 DVD program, I am going to expand my horizons and try to switch up my workout to keep myself engaged in my goals. 

Today I am doing a workout by choice, already cranked out 1 set this morning and will crank out another set late tonight. This IS important to ME. I want to do this for myself. 

My Workout Challenge for TODAY:

50 Jumping Jacks

40 Crunches

40 Squats

40 Leg Lifts

30 Jumping Jacks

20 Bicycle Crunches

20 Squats

30 Leg Lifts

Run 10 Minutes 

(and yes, I ran in place and my kids joined me!)

It feels great to have pain, to feel the burn and to know that I am making this happen for my body.  Do I need to lose weight, no. Do I want to look better in my clothes? YES! I want to have a toned tummy, I want to have defined leg muscles and feel GOOD about my body. This is me, raw. I want to feel great in my own skin and not feel self conscious, or worry that my shirt is too tight and someone can see the roll in my belly. I just want to feel good. 

I love PiYo- and did it again last night. But, like I said, I bore easily and sometime I just DON'T want to push PLAY! Sometimes I want to get a workout in while watching the news or a quick workout while my kids are playing.  I know that it sounds so much easier to just push the dang PLAY button, but why can't I do a little of this and a little of that?  Well, I can and I will!

Taking the day off tomorrow for the HOLIDAY!  Happy 4th!

Kel

33 Things EVERYONE should STOP doing in their 30s

The list of things you need to STOP doing...because your 30!

We all know that the dreaded 30's mean that you are NO LONGER in your 20's...no matter how much we want to still go out to the "Club" or spend all night getting plastered at the bar, only to wake up in someone stranger's house the next morning with no recollection of what happened the night before. (this is so NOT my life, btw)

When you hit that magical number...that Dirty Thirty, it is time to grow up a little bit..isn't it? I mean, some of us are already married with kids by the time we hit the big thirty.  So, after some careful thinking and consideration about just what hitting our Thirties means, it also brought out those things that we should no longer..wait let me repeat...NO LONGER be doing! We are Thirty now, after all.

So 

#1, so fitting, STOP FACEBOOK STALKING and YES this does include your EX!  They are an ex for a reason..remember! Who cares what they or whoever else on FB is doing.

#2  Get rid of the Red Solo Cups..no more beer pong...plus, did you see that video and where those cups have been..gross!

#3  To go with the one above, stop trying to seek others approval. You are living YOUR life. 

#4  Stop sleeping away your weekends.  It is time to get up, get moving and be productive.  There are things to get done...i.e. that yard work is NOT going to do itself.

#5  Binge drinking on a ...Weeknight.  C'mon Man, you know you got bills to pay, right? You can't just be drinking to oblivion all week long or weekend. 

#6 Ringing up your AMEX.  It is about time you realize that there is this thing, kind of a big deal...called DEBT and it counts AGAINST you!

#7  Your out of money, no way to pay the rent..DO NOT call Mom and Dad.  Just don't do it.

#8 Time to look at your friends.  This one is a hard one..stop being LAZY about those deadbeat friends you have that are going no where or are just no good and cut them out!

#9 Buying everything and anything you want just because you want it. (I don't know if I 100% agree with this one.. I think that if you CAN afford it, and it is within reason, why not?)

#10 Stop sneaking around.. whether it is a smoke or a drink. Just be real!

#11 Seriously, do not just go buy new undies because all of yours are dirty and you don't want to do laundry. NO NO NO!

#12 Do not post about your drunken escapades on social media. Not cool Man.

#13 You need to moisturize. Your getting older, after all!

#14 You know that staying up all night is not an option. You WILL pay for it the next day.  Plus, you know that you are tired by the time eleven o'clock hits anyways, don't deny it!

#15 Stop making excuses - start working out! (this one is a BIG one on my list! Make time)

#16 Put down the McDonald's.  You know it is going to go right to your midsection.. Put it down, I say!

#17 Just say no to Posters.  It is time for framed pictures or matted posters, that is just that!

#18 When you get your 401K package paperwork, please do NOT ignore it!

#19 Don't spend all your money on drinking or food. Be reasonable!

#20 Don't wait for someone else to do things for you. Your a big boy/girl now and it is time to handle your business yourself!

#21 Get a cleaning schedule! Do not wait to clean that toilet until company is coming over. 

#22 Don't stop, don't give up!  Just because something gets tough does not mean you can give up.  

#23 Same goes for taking out the trash as #21.  Make it a priority to take out the trash before people come over or garbage night for that matter!

#24 Let it go...Let it go... Don't hold onto grudges. It isn't worth it!

#25 More cleaning..wash your towels and sheets regularly, not just once a month... 

#26 Do not Neglect Family Time. It is important, whether you see it now or not, you do not get this time back!

#27 It is time to take responsibility for things in your life. 

#28 Floss regularly.  You are to old to floss the day your have a dentist visit and here is an FYI- the dentist knows!

#29 Don't buy into the quick fix weight loss. It will do no good for you.  Start eating healthy, working out and making this a priority.  (check out www.beachbodycoach.com/KELAMSTUTZ for a healthy way to get fit!) 

#30 Don't Text while driving. 

#31 Start saving Money for a rainy day. They will come, I promise you that.

#32 Do not par-take in the Drama. Stay out of it. You are better off without involving yourself anymore than you might already be!

And FINALLY,

#33 It is important to stay up to date on current events.  No matter how Old and Boring it may sound, it is about time you show some interest in the world around you!

I think that this list is very accurate. It in no ways implies that you need to stop having fun, have tons of fun..but as a 30 year old, not a 20 something!  Those days are gone, no more flying by the seat of your pants, it is time to be established and be a part of society through working and socializing and staying up to date on your surroundings. And one more important thing that I have to mention is, Register to Vote!  Your vote DOES count.

:)  Happy 30's!

~Kel

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