How to Build a Home That Boosts Self-Esteem
Confidence in a child is something that is so important. It starts at home...along with so many other qualities, i.e. charity, compassion, and chivalry. Confidence is so important because, let's face it, kids self esteem these days is at an ultimate low. Between bullies and the way the media criticizes our perception of pretty much ALL things, it is not easy.
I know that we can't control what happens within the schools but we do have control over one very important aspect within our children's lives: their H O M E. By making a few changes, you can create a SAFE SPACE that boosts your children's self esteem and teaches them to help others who might have the signs of low self esteem, as well.
Five (5) Ways to Build a Positive Home Environment:
While it is important to Praise your child, too much can also hurt them. Constant criticism will cause your child to doubt his abilities, but constant compliments can inflate his ego and can, in turn, cause him to put others down. You need to find balance.
Commend him for a job well done but don't be afraid to give CONSTRUCTIVE feedback also, when he needs it.
Think about it, your having a bad day and someone special to you gives you an unexpected hug and tells you that they love you, doesn't it make you feel good?
This can boost your child's confidence by reminding him that you care, but also it makes him comfortable when expressing his own emotions and in the future will make it easier for him to work through any troubles he might be dealing with.
3. Ban Negativity
We all get down on ourselves at times and it can be difficult to keep those thoughts quiet, but if you start small by prohibiting words that your child says the most, i.e. stupid, fat, ugly, you can build up to the negativity ban. I know that our children will still hear these words in school, but by banning them from the house, you can create an environment that is safe when she feels down.
4. Be a Good Role Model
I love to say that "We must lead by example" and it leaves a huge impact on our children. If you call yourself stupid or shy away from challenges, then your child is likely to follow suit.
Look at each opportunity that presents itself to YOU as an opportunity to not only BUILD your child's confidence but BOOST your own as well.
I think that a great personal example is that I am building two business as an Independent Marketing Consultant and it is hard, everyday is tougher than the day before, but I am showing my girls that if I work hard, I stay positive and dedicated, that I will succeed.
5. Spend Time Together
I, for one, totally get that every Mom needs alone time, but taking to much time to yourself can make your children feel like you don't care about them at all. Harsh, I know! But those tiny little minds are more complex than we give them credit for.
My suggestion... turn off your phone and spend some together time. Engage your children, whether at the dinner table, playing at the park, or just taking some time to listen to your child talk. This helps your children know and feel important and also gives a BOOST to their self esteem!
