30 Day Challenge- Day #3

Day #3- Your views on Drugs and Alcohol

Oh well let's just jump into these great controversial topics- what do you say?

My views on Drugs and Alcohol will differ from a lot of people in the world, I am sure. I grew up in a normal family. My Dad was a Firefighter and Carpenter on the side, my Mom was a City Employee. They were casual drinkers.  I experimented with Alcohol at fifteen.  I actually drank a few times at the bars when I turned twenty one and stopped. I always joke because I say that I got all the drinking out of my system before I was twenty one- and party hard did I !

Well, when I was fourteen I lost a dear cousin to drinking and driving.  He fell asleep at the wheel of his car one evening due to being intoxicated. This left an imprint on my being.  I NEVER would drink and drive.  I was always careful and cautious but I also liked to have a good time.

Today I choose not to drink. I have had a few nights of fun here and there but when I started getting serious with my Hubby , who also does not drink, I just moved on.

As for drugs, I have experimented in the past.  I just grew up.  I didn't do anything more than Marijuana.  I don't like pills, period, so that was out of the question.  I worked for our local police department and they brought in the drug force, where we got to see each drug on the street and all I have to say is that was disgusting and opened my eyes to a lot of things.

I live a clean life today.  I am a Mom after all.  It is funny though, I ask myself a lot how I am going to approach these topics with my girls.  I am a pretty laid back person and with my own Brother, I would not discourage him from smoking Pot, instead I educated him the best I could and left the decision up to him. 

I think with the rate that America is going and having 2 states legalizing Marijuana , we might be legal by the time my girls are old enough to know what it is. 

I think that my approach will be a to understand what it is like being a teenager and educate as best I can.  The one thing I want to steer clear of is saying No, Don't or You Cant.  I rebelled really bad, as you can read above, because I had a thumb over me and I know that it made me push back more and do the opposite.  I try to have a different parenting approach overall.

I am not one to preach about Drinking and Drugs.  In fact, my Hubby and I have many friends who still do both and we would still hang around them. This is strictly my life choice and I in, no way, shape or form, put that on anyone else buy myself.

Tune in ttomorrow for Day #4- Your Views on Religion.

30 Day Challenge- Day #2

Day #2- Where you'd like to be in 10 years...

To sit and think about this question, today, it seems like ten years is so far away, but I remember saying that twelve years ago and time flies when your having fun!

In Ten years my girls will be 15 and 13- OMG!  I imagine that our house will sound a lot like it does today- with a Mommm and a Nooo - of course the Ughhh... and we are only 4 (well almost 5!).  My Big One will be getting ready to drive, she will probably do well because she is currently a bad back seat driver!  My Little One will be getting ready for High School and I hope she is still sweet and loving.  I hope that Jason and I are enjoying life- damn we will be old by then!  I hope life is good, smooth and less complicated than it is now. 

I would LOVE to be working at home by then, but only God knows what is in the cards for me.  I imagine we will still be here- as much as I don't want to be, we are living house payment free- hopefully Gray Gables is complete and we are just enjoying family life in the country!

I can't complain because our life is always changing for the better and if we continue on this path, it will continue to grow better the more stable we are, but again, it all depends on God's plan for us and our family!

The 30 Day Challenge- Day #1

I found this 30 day Challenge and thought it would be F U N!

Day 01- Your current relationship, if single discuss how single life is

Well, I am Obviously, NOT Single, but my current relationship is finding bliss.  I have been married to my Best Friend for 7 years now, this past November.  We have been together, as a couple for twelve years, this past September and have faced every challenge that God has put in our paths, good, bad, happy, sad, and even downright UGLY!

Our Relationship started off as a friendly relationship.  I knew that he was more than just a Friend, I felt it in my heart the first time I saw him, which was when I was a Freshman and he was a Sophemore.  I was a very shy girl, but I had my path and knew when to be at my locker to see him walk past in the mornings.  Yes, he calls me a stalker!

By Christmas, 2001, I had a steady boyfriend and our relationship moved on from there.  We ended up moving in together in 2003 with his Dad. It was crazy!  The craziest thing I have ever done, and yes,  I moved out at one point, and moved back in after a week... Learning curves. 

By 2005, we were moving into a house we bought and by 2006 we were planning our wedding.  Life has moved at a rapid pace since then! 

In 2009 we welcomed our first baby girl.  That is when the MAJOR challenges arrived.  Having a Baby Changes EVERYTHING- this is NO Joke. Nothing changes your relationship like adding another person to it!   As crazy as it was, we adjusted, argues, spoke our minds, said stuff we shouldn't have and found the meaning of our love and fought to keep it together. 

By 2011, we welcomed our second baby girl and life was just easier.  Yes, we still had good days and bad days, and having two little people to look after was full of obstacles, we managed to stick together and find a way to make it all work.

If I said that my life was easy and daisy popped up everywhere I stepped, I would be SO lying!  Its not easy.  Even today, it is NOT easy.  I have just learned through age that I pick my battles, I find a common ground and I hold my tongues unless I just can't find anything to hold it with.  My kids still present the biggest arguements.  I try to muster patience, understanding and compassion and Hubby has a hot temper and a big voice.  My girls are instant cryers and I, as a Mommy go right to protect them!  This is my newest challenge and I have been working hard to remind myself that Hubby and I are on the same team and have the same common goals with the girls, protect and teach, help them learn and understand right from wrong. 

My latest journey is the journey to finding out Gods definition of a Good Wife because over the years, the kids, the houses, the jobs and life in general I feel like I have been less than a dutiful wife.  Hubby and I are facing our latest challenges as a couple due to the fact that we are working opposite shifts, crazy hours and are literally passing on another in the day.  We are only having one day a week to spend any kind of quality time together but due to him working the night before, he sleeps half of that day away.   The most important thing that we are finding is just keeping our lines of communication opened at all times and complimenting one another in the passings we are having.

We will prevail, we always do.  If there is a will there is a way and we both know that this is a snipet of time in the grand sckeme of life. 

Our 2014 Goals are to get this house together (somehow with such limited time) and finally get our family back to living.  We are saving up for Disney, hopefully in 2015, if God is willing!



Check back tomorrow for Day 02: Where you'd like to be in 10 years.

Gearing up for Valentines Day

This year is going to be an exciting Valentines Day!  My kiddo is in Pre-K and we have stuff to make/bake for her classmates! I love the crayons, melted and shaped like hearts, I also printed some stuff for Frozen Valentines, which Ms. almost 5 YO loves, right! So, I think we are going to have to meet in the middle- maybe do both? I guess we will have to see how much time this Momma has! 
I also want to do some cool stuff for the FAM too- found this picture and think the sentiments are adorable:



Thank you Pinterest!






























                 







Ooh- this is cute too!




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Oh, I can already feel the LOVE!

Prayers sent

Today has been a trying day for me. I found out this morning that a friends father lost his battle with lung cancer and my heart is very heavy.
This was all my friend had left and I fear that he will drink himself to his own grave now not having his Dad.  It happened so fast too. 
I have said a prayer and extended our deepest sympathies and an open door for anything he might need as did a lot of others and can only hope for the best.  It just has left me feeling very sad inside. 
Death is never easy. 

Titanic ..tear

Ugh I just love this movie. I started to watch the run on AMC tonight and couldn't stop.  Now my mascara is running and I cant  wait for the exhibit to come to our city in March.
PS Leonardo Di Carpio, I still love you. You remind me so much of my Hubby from mannerisms to looks. I don't know how Rose was able to go on because if I lost my hubby I would be lost too. 

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