It's our Anniversary, so let's have a QUIZ..
Anniversary time..so of course, let's do a QUIZ...duh.
Marriage is a beautiful thing, right!
It gets a bad rap, marriage, because most people are really bad at it. That is not Marriage's fault, per say, is it? I think it is the couples' fault for either being immature and/or not smart enough to manage Marriage.
It is hard to think of vowing your love for years down the road in one single moment. Who can do that? Make promises 10 years down the road to the partner that stands before them. Would they even be the same in that amount of time? But isn't that the point? I mean life is full of uncertainty. We never know where we will be in a year, let alone ten, right!
So what if you can't always keep your promises? I mean, as long as your are being the best, most amazing life partner, doesn't that make up for an unkempt promise?
Here I stand, eight long years later, by my best friends side, still. I love my Husband with all I have. I promised him forever, the good, the bad and the ugly. All three have shown their face, too, by the way and guess what? We are still standing, still falling in love with one another everyday and still working at our marriage.
Also, it does NOT stay the same. We have changed individually, we have changed together, we have changed parts of our lives and we aren't done yet!
So we are about to head out to dinner and remember why we fell in love, how we started our journey so long ago and I thought what would not be a better way to remember....than to take a quiz?
So, honestly answering these questions:
1) Why do you love me?
I know, sounds loaded, right! This could go two ways, and I am hoping for the better of the two! People seem to feel that this is a question that doesn't especially need answering. Most will say we love others' simply because we love them- which is a horrible answer! All people need to know exactly why it is that they love the people they love.
Loving someone is a very selfish act- it's OK! You love the person you love for what that person does for you and how he/she makes you feel.
We may all have slightly different answers as to why we love someone, but if we aren't able to exactly define the parameters to our love, then we're likely to struggle later on once the initial intensity dies down. If your partner can't answer why he/she loves you, it can cause uncertainty down the road.
To my Hubby, why I love you- you are amazing. You make sure that our family always has what it needs, you try hard to make us happy, you try to make the bed without being asked, you fix my car to make sure I am safe, you tell me to be careful when I leave, you listen to me go on and on and on...You look at me as if I am the only person in the world, you look into my eyes and I can feel your love for me.
2) Why did you want to spend the rest of your life with me?
"Because I love you" is not a good answer here. Life is a journey- one that is best not traveled entirely alone. However, not everyone has the same destination in mind. Wanting to take different pit stops along the route is one thing. Wanting different things out of life is another entirely.
Your partner should be able to tell you what life experiences he/she hoped to share with you. It is these little goals you set for yourselves that make your life special.
To my Hubby, I wanted to spend my life with you because I could see it no other way. I knew from the moment i saw you, at age 14, that you were the one. We started to "date" and I knew that I could not be away from you. You held my entire heart and without you by myside I was so lonely. You were my best friend and the person that I wanted by my side to share this life with and all that it unfolded.
3) Will you do your best to continue to keep the romance alive?
To my Hubby, it has been eight years and I feel that if anything, we are like a fine wine and just keep getting better with age. Although we do have obstacles that come in our way and keep getting bigger, we still manage to try to find intimacy and find ways to spend time, just the two of us. I know that with work schedules and life in general, we still manage to connect and love and find our way and will continue to do so for years to come, as it is a vital part of our growth and our joining as a solid team.
4. Will you continue to grow with me, and not away from me?
7. Can you promise to put us ahead of everything else?