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Day 29- Technology POWERED OFF

It is time to TURN IT OFF, I tell you.  Put it down and watch, listen, talk to your kids.  

Unfortunately I had to talk to my Hubby about this the other day.  It hurts to know that I am hurting him by blabbering on about his short comings, but it really needed to be said. When you truly LOVE someone, I feel like you tell them when they are coming up short and hopefully instead of being angry, they use that KNOWLEDGE to change their actions.   (This is what I have learned to do with my criticisms)
Anyways, it became apparent that, since Hubby has been HOME more, with his Vacation days and eating dinner with us, that all through dinner he is on his phone.  He is not engaged with us at all, and when he is...he wants QUIET.  (sorry Honey)
I kind of feel like I am in some 1950s TV Sitcom when he is present, because our table is stone cold quiet and when he is not home, we have fun, we eat, we laugh, we talk and we connect.  This is always how my table was growing up.  We always ate together an…

Day 28 of our 30 Day Mom Challenge...Let's learn a new word

Challenge Day 28:
Teach your child a new word.
Since my oldest is all about learning new words and reading and understanding sight words, we are going to work on vocabulary.  
Today has been full of teaching moments.
We have been reading books and comprehending words that she did not even know existed and essentially becoming her own little book of knowledge. 
What better word to teach than Knowledge.  

Especially since I told her that she was full of knowledge and she said, "What?" 

knowl·edge ˈnäləj/ noun 1. facts, information, and skills acquired by a person through experience or education; the theoretical or practical understanding of a subject. "a thirst for knowledge" synonyms:understandingcomprehensiongraspcommandmastery; More

27- Let's Get HEALTHY...for our kids

What do you do to encourage Healthy  Decisions?

Challenge Day #27

Do one thing that is good for your health:  walk, 10 minutes; eat a piece of fruit; or get a good nights sleep.

Think about it, setting a good example for your kids in regards to health.  It is something that I have personally been trying to promote in my household since my kids birth.  
It is important. 

I work out, they see me put my fitness clothes on and push PLAY, they see me drink my Shakeo - and they see me run around the house, cleaning, going up and down the stairs, doing my sit ups and crunches.  They even help me, join me and we talk about it.
We eat OK.  I know that we could always do better, but we make sure to have at least 4 servings of fruit a day and we get our yogurt in, and veggies are a tough one, but we get 1 serving a day in these crazy, picky girls!

We honestly believe that "An Apple a day, keeps the Doctor away" and work hard to get some form of apple in our diets.

Today, we are going to eat an …

26- Encourage your Child Today (Happy Turkey Day!)

Children are likely to live up to what you believe in them. ~Lady Bird Johnson
The old adage is so true, when we believe in our kids, when we push them to do better they will be better.  I think that it is important to let your kids dream, let them dream big and educate them to know that it takes hard work but anything is possible. 

So many times you hear about grown ups who are not expected to be anything more than what they are.  A friend was struggling with her decisions to educate herself, to invest in herself to have a career, not just a job and was met at home with so much indecisiveness and discretion.  She was expected to stay in the job she had been in for ten years, to retire from that job, even in our weakened economy and she had nothing to fall back on.  The job was stale, the position expired and the clock, essentially...ticking.  Her push had to come from herself and even then, she was met with discouragement.  It was painful to watch.  
The thing is, she pushed herself when…

Happy Thanksgiving from my Family to yours!


Day 25...of 30- Ask your Child's Opinion

Now and then it's good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy. ~Guillermo Apollinaire~
Have you ever tried on an outfit, looked in the mirror and your kiddo walks in.  You are doing the "do I look OK dance in the mirror" and you ask your kid, who is just standing there looking for some attention, "Do I look OK?"  Asking your kids their opinion show that their words matter. 
It is important to get on their level, even if it is NOT about what you are wearing. 

Ask your Child's Opinion
It is a part of growing up, feeling equal and knowing that what you have to say matters that will help your child develop, it will help them feel confident and also it will help them share.  I am dreading the teenage years, with two girls in this house.  I mean, it will be closed doors and loud music and I will be fighting for them to let me in.
What do I do about it?  I ask my kids questions, I ask what they think about things and I talk to them.  I try to reach them i…

Day 24 of our 30 day Mom Challenge....

Do NOT interrupt your child when he/she is talking
What do we teach our children about interrupting?  We teach them that it is rude and not having good manner, right?  
In my household, we stick by a:
"do (unto) to others as you would want done to yourself", 
and for the most part, it is working.  We have stressed that if you want us to listen to yourself must listen to us.  If you wish to talk and be heard, then you must do the same and when you don't we stress this factor.  Our kids are pretty good.  We do have a bit of interruption issue, but it is forgetfulness at times.  We always fall back in to this talk.

We have been having some issues with our youngest and her volume. This kid is LOUD.  I am not even joking, her normal talking is like yelling to normal people.  And, that means that when she is super loud.  Her talk was about yelling at me.  "Do you want Mommy to yell at you?"  this is where i get the "pout" and a quiet (for on…

Day 23- Replace Sarcasm with Kindness

A challenge catered to myself!  How many times a day Do I say..."You don't say..."  or "Really?"  to my kids.  Agh.  The worst part is that I get it honestly and it is a part of my DNA so much so, that I really don't even realize I am doing it.. And yes, I have bestowed this trait onto my oldest daughter. 
Replace Sarcasm with Kindness.
Yesterday we were MIA from the Blog..did you notice? (eek there it is again!)  Well, we were down and out with the sickness in our house..invading my children. They just got the Flu Mist this past weekend and seemed to be nothing short of KNOCKED DOWN with this crazy cold that packs one heck of a hard cough.  

On Sunday night, my oldest was coughing for a good two hours.  It was the most annoying, hard cough that made Hubby and I jump from bed with cough medicine, pillow props and of course, Vicks. 

Now, giving your kid Night-time Medicine at 4:00 a.m. and knowing they have to get up at 7:00 a.m. for school means...NO SCHOOL.  S…

Day 22...this one is TOUGH

When Tomorrow Starts Without Me  by: Margi Harrell
When Tomorrow starts without me and I'm not here to see, If the sun should rise and find your eyes, all filled with tears of me. I wish so much you wouldn't cry the way you did today, while thinking of the many things we didn't get to say.
I know how much you loved me, as must as I love you, and each time that you think of me, I know you'll miss me too. But when tomorrow starts without me please try to understand, That an Angel came and called my name and took my by the hand.
When tomorrow starts without me, don't think  we're far apart, for every time you think of me, I'm right here, in your heart.

Our Challenge:
How do you want your child to remember you?  Be THAT Mom today.
I really must be honest, I hate this question. I mean, it is a known fear that I have that I will die early and miss my kids lives.  It is difficult to even think about what their memory of me would be?  I hope it would be a loving Mom, one who taught them…

Day 21: Forgive yourself when you MESS up

MISTAKES makes us HUMAN.  FAILURE makes us STRONGER.   HOPE keeps us GOING.
Have you even seen that list... You know the one I am talking about...The one that says something about the "Mistakes Parents Make" list.  Have you ever read such a list?  How about something you JUST MESSED UP?  

After reading said lists, I feel like I have messed up a lot.

It is OK, isn't it?  I mean, we ALL make mistakes sometimes, don't we?  

A wise person always told me, growing up, that Mistakes are OK, as long as you LEARN from them.  I think that this statement has been one of a few that has always stuck with me.  The only problem is, parenting is not the place I want to make my mistakes.. But, there isn't a manual, so who knows what the outcome could be. (not that this makes it ANY better!)

I have made awful mistakes with discipline.  It has been about finding WHAT works with our kids and it is tough!  I know that discipline is necessary to set up boundaries and sticking to that set di…