30 Day Challenge- Day #26- What kind of Person attracts you

Day #26- What kind of Person Attracts you?

I find this question odd, at best!   I think maybe my first step should be to define attraction:

at·trac·tion

əˈtrakSHən/

noun

noun: attraction; plural noun: attractions

1. 1.

   the action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something.

   "she has romantic ideas about sexual attraction"

   synonyms:

   appeal, attractiveness, desirability, seductiveness, seduction, allure, animal magnetism; More charisma, charm, beauty, good looks, eye-appeal "she had lost whatever attraction she once had"

   antonyms:

   repulsion

   • a quality or feature of something or someone that evokes interest, liking, or desire.

     "this reform has many attractions for those on the left"
   • a thing or place that draws visitors by providing something of interest or pleasure.

     "the church is the town's main tourist attraction"

     synonyms:

     entertainment, activity, diversion, interest More "the fair offers sideshows and other attractions"

   • Physics

     a force under the influence of which objects tend to move toward each other.

     "gravitational attraction"

     synonyms:

     pull, draw; More magnetism "the stars are held together by gravitational attraction"

     antonyms:

     repulsion

   • Grammar

     the influence exerted by one word on another that causes it to change to an incorrect form, e.g., the wages of sin is (for are ) death.

Oh, ok-now that that is summed up... The people that I tend to attracts into my life are usually young. That is kind of weird!  My Hubby is older than me, and I knew he was the one the first time I laid eyes on him.  I befriended him to attract him and wa-lah here we are today!

Friends on the other hand seems to be here and there!  My BFF growing up was the complete opposite of me from eyes to hair to personality and interests.  She loved tennis, me, not so much!  In the latter years of Elementary, we definitely drifted apart.  My next BFF, also a neighbor, was younger than me but always a lot of fun. She was also very different from me. 

I have had a lot of come and go friends along my journey, most of them were sort of like me.  My very best est friend even had the same name!  We were like sisters, because we were a like, yet SO different from one another.  She was so much FUN.  Always shooting for the laugh.  We went to Canada when we were 18- drove all the way there at like 10 o'clock at night with another friend too.  We got up there, drank till we couldn't see straight, then ended up in a park somewhere near the casino.  She is so crazy that she is riding these crazy animals that are on springs and it was the most hilarious sight ever!  I was DD, so I was the only sober one and I was literally rolling in the snow dying from laughter!  

It was always like that with her. We would have the time of our  lives one minute and it would be dreadfully serious the next minute.  When she got grumpy- watch out, she was a major pill and we would fight!  We went to Cedar Point one summer day, left real early and she was a pill that day!  It was hot, yes, it was a long trip there, totally, but we fought from the moment we got there, to the moment we left! That is when our friendship started to fade.  I guess I knew we were growing up in that instant.  We still had a decent day- but things were definitely changing!

Today, she is invisible. She definitely left an imprint on my soul, a friend I will love forever and never forget but one that remains absent in my life to date.  Kind of sad actually.  I always thought she would be in my wedding, be there when my kids were born, like they would call her Aunt and vice versa.  Just a dream, I suppose!
 
Then there was my Maid of Honor.  She was younger but we were like instant sisters!  We got along famously.  I don't really know what happened.  We became friends through my Hubby and her Boyfriend at the time.  Shortly after our wedding, she split from boyfriend, who was fiance at that time.  She went cold on me.  Then she came back a few months later with some story about us being close to her X and she doesn't want him knowing her business- like I was going to tell him, a person who I didn't even see, like EVER!  I was hurt by her distrust of the meaning of our friendship to me and we drifted.  This girl left a hole in my heart.  She came around when my daughter was born but that was the last time I saw her, five years ago.  

Man, I think I answered this silly question.  I attract people who apparently do not stay in my life.  My Hubby is my best friend, always has been.  I was always closer to boys anyhow!  My Best Boy -Friend was in my life through all of this- he didn't distance himself until Hubby and I started to get serious.  He had already moved down south by that time and was visiting less and less.  I heard from him now and again, but nothing like our friendship had been.  I really miss him too.  Guess that is why Facebook is such a great invention, we do keep in touch- but its barely a friendship at this point.  That one is hard to swallow too, he was my best est- best best friend.  He knew everything about me as a person.  I loved him, like a brother and he played the role perfectly too.  And no, we never dated, nor did either of us ever want to.  He was literally like a brother, always.  

I think that the attraction is two sided.  I am a very introverted person.  I like my space, my time to be alone and my privacy.  I am sure that this has impacted my meaningful friends in a lot of ways.  There has really only been one person who I have never let my claws out of, and that is Hubby. Lucky him, right!  Ha.